Most of these hit close to home, except that I'm obsessively punctual, check my messages even when there are no new notifications and my file system is a work of art that I can spend hours organizing. But that goddamn chair though…
I am also obsessively punctual, and I use a planner well. Other than that… yeah.
Fuck being punctual. Have to be there at least ten minutes early. But respond to a call or text in a reasonable period of time? Nah.
I’m obsessively punctual, but my file system is like the chair… and I’m a software engineer …
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Don’t let other people tell you how to optimize queries for your database. https://lemmy.spacestation14.com/comment/912391
I’m you minus the chair… mostly because I don’t own a chair like that
I thought everyone had a couple folders called"stuff". Damn
I can’t delete those, they might have something important … They definitely don’t
That's… That's adhd? Like, I'm all of that. I don't think I have adhd.
As others said, these are mostly all signs of some kind of executive dysfunction. Mine is from depression, not ADHD, but there's a lot of overlap. I obsessively keep my inbox empty which is a whole 'nother vibe
I also obsessively keep notifications to 0, probably bc of my GAD or OCD
It’s definitely a result of poor executive functioning, which is a major symptom of ADHD. But that does not mean you have it. Just that these experiences are very common for people with ADHD brains.
It could be adhd, could be nothing, could be autism (poor executive function can be part of that). But it’s clear that you have the opportunity to get tested and improve your QoL. Your decision.
*When they actually suffer from that.
Tricky thing about being neurodivergent is most people have no idea that they‘ve been suffering so getting insight into their own situation (even if they‘re not over the threshold) is going to do much good for their situation. Knowing is always better than not knowing (imo).
Definitely easy to believe that what you’re experiencing and going through is just normal and what everyone else is going through too. Only way to know to get help is to somehow figure out that isn’t the case.
Exactly. Most people I know find out about their possible diagnosis through a first contact with the topic and then usually talk to a medical professional. After that they search for someone who can actually diagnose them if that first professional encounter indicates a necessity.
Even when you are neurodivergent you can assess whether your life "works" or not. Social media and the idea to go get a diagnose just to know made it almost impossible (where I live) to get an appointment.
Doctors aren't even putting you on a waiting list anymore. The victims of this are the people who really don't have their life in order and aren't managing to get an appointment.
And this really is following social media trends. Currently it is an ADHD hype, slowly merging into an autism hype.
don’t diagnose based on memes. see a professional
There are more symptoms to ADHD and even then all of these appear in people without neurodevelopmental or psychological disorders as well. Especially when you live a stressful life.
Excessive number of open tabs, anyone?
Excessive tabs spanning across multiple browsers. Chrome, Edge, and Firefox. All at least 50 tabs opened
Multiple windows open in multiple browsers, each window has minimum of 50 tabs open… Thank the gods for the 'switch to this tab’s feature so I can find what I wanted (even with organization tabs like Tree Style Tabs, shit gets lost)
I learned that my phone’s browser will only allow 99 tabs. Unless they’ve updated that.
Beyond 99 it just shows a frowning emoji.
I just get ‘99+’ and a shit ton of tabs marked inactive…
I am at a smiley face number of tabs on my phone:
Haha same. It’s like a little achievement
Excessive? No. Just the right amount: all of them
well I didn't use it for about a month now, but I could (i won't) need it any day now so why close it, it's a PITA to open it
Only 1000 here. Have been at 1500; started over less than six months ago and I’m back up to 1000…
try 25 virtual desktops running 2 browsers, one of which with multiple profiles for various broad topics … my “main” session alone has 75-80 windows at present 😃
edit: installed an extension to find out: in main session, 378 tabs across 84 windows. seems like a low number of tabs per window perhaps, but I organize topics into a window, then related topic-windows into a dedicated browser profile session if they’re long-lived, and windows/sessions are grouped into virtual desktop by top-level topic more or less … so my fediverse/threadiverse session has 35 tabs in 7 windows in only 1 virtual desktop.
edit 2: I theme each browser profile differently to (mostly) tell them apart by eye
All true, except those unread email/notifications are rookie numbers.
🙈Pfff…
You got to do what I do. Just delete everything and regret it later.
That’s a whole ‘nother level right there.
The Bat!
That was me until I spent a week cleaning it out and organizing it.
Well… my main email at least.
Do I have reverse ADHD in this regard? I check my messages obsessively.
Addicted to novelty. My adhd is unread email of zero but hundreds of “read” emails that I need to respond to.
😰
No flat surface is safe.
All these are accurate for me except I've graduated the chair to an over-sized under-bed drawer, all my bills are automated, and I have a car that has a proximity key so it always stays in my pocket (and I wear the same pants for a couple weeks on end).
But yeah, those are just learned coping mechanisms.
My chair is just 2 corners in my bedroom
Automated bills is a weird one for me. I absolutely know they’d be useful to keep me from forgetting important things, but I manage to talk myself out of it as I’d “lose awareness” of where my money goes.
… I need to stop making excuses, huh?
I went from routinely missing to never. You absolutely should set that up.
I can relate on the losing awareness aspect. So, I also put them all on my calendar in red (recurring, of course) then switch to green with the title appended w/ “DONE” when I’ve paid it, or verified auto pay is scheduled.
Ooh, I like that! I can still maintain awareness but there’s no real penalties if I forget to for a day or few. Thanks, I think I’ll be setting that up today!
Your bank should allow you to setup autopay alerts, I get them pretty regularly for mine (email stating ‘your auto pay to COMPANY is pending for $xxxx on yy/zz’) but I also don’t read them. And I have a budget setup so I know where that money is going to go this week anyway. And I check my accounts weekly to pay off my credit card so I see it there as well. Mainly because I have a reminder to do so.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
I'm in this picture and I have mostly come to terms with it.
Mooooooood
A giant leaf is missing from this comment
instead of The Chair I have The Floor
Idk your age, but I personally upgraded from The Floor™ to The Chair™ in my mid 30s.
Good to know, I can put it off for a few more years then.
I moved from The Chair™ to The Bed™. 35 here.
The Floor is the largest shelf in your house!
If not for putting things then whys it made of flat?
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You guys don’t get a compulsion to get rid of any notification or mark emails as read the moment they come through?
Also you guys get messages on social media?
I can relate to that last part… except on lemmy, I get plenty of messages here :)
No. Mostly I turn off the notification stuff if I can, especially the little dot with the unread number. A lot of that stuff isn’t worth reading.
Jokes on you, I have The Heap™
It’s like a chair but without the chair as chairs take up extra space
…my single spotify playlist for ALL my music is named Heap
My music taste is so scatter shot and shifting I could never do that
Mine are usually titled the date I save them with no further description
And before you ask, no it doesn’t make finding the correct playlist easier
I just have my 1000 liked songs that I play on shuffle
That’s essentially how I use the Heap playlist
Do you also sometimes get these hyperfixations on music where you listen to one or only a few songs a lot and skip to everything else?
Those social media notifications are not accurate. I always check my notifications. My notifications bar is clean. I think this “meme” is wrong
Also, I have thousands of unread emails not because I have adhd but because I sign up for random newsletters that seem cool but then I quickly… lose… interest. Oh, I might have adhd.
Here’s a notification for youu 😁
Same, I have to be at time at appointment.
This hits hard. :(
"The Chair" put me six feet under.
Too soon
NARM!
Multiple alarms in the morning is more about not getting enough sleep than it is about ADHD. The rest are pretty accurate, though some things are missing.
Unless you woke up early to get stuff done and that’s to remind you to leave for work lol
This would be me. 5 mins left before a meeting, let me just check this one thing. 20 mins later “sorry I’m late lost track of time”.
me today. “I could leave now and be half an hour early… but that’s boring!” then I blink twice and suddenly I’m scrambling to not be late
Nothing about that is exclusive to ADHD though. That literally could just be anybody
about what? accumulating responsibilities unaddressed? of course they could happen with anyone, they just happen more with ADHD
what I’m saying is that hypersomnia is not symptomatic of ADHD. the rest of it is.
Sleep issues are 100% a symptom of ADHD lmfao, maybe not for you but it’s extremely common
No. It’s not about me. I work in the field. Sleep disturbance is not a primary symptom and not a diagnostic criterion. It’s a common symptom of anxiety, which is comorbid with ADHD, but not ADHD itself.
Please don’t trust me on it though. Don’t trust anyone on social media about mental health issues. Talk to a professional.
It’s nothing to do with anxiety disorder, when your mind runs like a motor and is constantly racing with no way to turn off it can obviously make it extremely hard to sleep. My mind wandering iff to thinking about how I would win a chess match against a black bear while I’m trying to sleep is 100% my ADHD and 0% anxiety disorder lol. And thinking about random embarrassing shit at night also isn’t an anxiety disorder, it’s just your ADHD
I get plenty of sleep and still need at least 3 or 4 alarms that are spaced 5-10 min apart each.
I don’t wanna talk about it :(
If I have multiple files or folders named like that it’s usually because I’m working on something and frustrated. They eventually devolve into profanity lol
When i already have a test folder in my home directory and try to make a test file i get really annoyed.
