I was tested by someone who came to my school when I was about eight years old because my parents were concerned. They diagnosed me as being lazy.
30+ years later and my kid is going through the same thing. The workers at the nursery are decent though, and suspect neurodiversity. A couple of appointments later and my kid gets an autism and ADHD diagnosis. My wife and I speak to them because my symptoms are so similar, and they said that from the conversations we had about my kid, they assumed that I had already been diagnosed.
I’m now 45 and still on a waiting list for an official diagnosis 😫
I was one of those “gifted children that was too lazy” and my mother was one of those “nothing can be wrong with my child or it reflects poorly on me!” and I got diagnosed with full blown ADHD at 29.
Therapy and drugs are great. And I’m glad you were aware enough to get your child tested. Early is for their best.
My parents called me lazy and unmotivated when I didn’t have an executive position at Google right out of highschool wile also saying I’m wasting my life on computers.
Got a “life sucks, then you die” any time I had any problems.
I just want a low effort life where I can be cozy. I’d probably taste test another gun if my job was stressful.
If you’re tech inclined, look for tech positions at non-tech places. Sometimes they can be hell “we need you to be the entire technology division on the salary of a remote helpdesk worker”, but there are rare places where you get to help and do cool tech stuff without the constant “climb the ladder or die” bullshit.
I got that one figured out. I get to hide alone in the server room and only actually do a few hours of work when things are actually broken.
8/10-The pay is a bit crap and I have to wear pants.
I have one of those too. Pretty busy rn because of a big migration for a platform I admin, but once that settles down, it’ll be back to five hours of actual work a week. Mine is a union job, so the pay is pretty good for my col area. 9/10 do reccomend.
Exact same story down to every detail. Both parents teachers, but no clue. The weirdest conclusions and theories about me. Like: Far below average intelligence, but with a talent for languages and mathematics (is that even a thing?), which got me through school with effortless Cs. Most of the time I (and probably others) thought I was just a general shithead.
I realised what it was 4 years ago and told a psychiatrist, who did not disagree, but was like: woa, hold your horses. Got a referral to a full neurological & psychiatric check-up from my GP, who wrote on the referral that he suspects ADD without hyperactivity, 1 1/2 years ago. Couldn’t use it, because they are overrun by more urgent cases.
Started paying out of pocked to a private clinic 6 months ago and got the official, written diagnosis 1 month ago (exactly what my GP already suspected). Since then, lots of delays to get treatment. No appointments, then appointment available, but latest bloodwork and ECG expired etc. Had one appointment last week cancelled 2 hours before start.
Honestly, with a medical system so overrun, a GP should just be authorised to do the diagnostic if supported by purely computer evaluated multiple choice test. The standardized tests appear to be the foundation anyway, and the many hours of additional psychiatric evaluation are just something that the medical system can’t support.
And yes, now my child. He is a true math genius who could do 2 or 3 classes above his own, but he hates books (only since school, not before!) and his reading & writing is just a hateful, effortless B. In two languages equally well, though. I suspect something is up there, but don’t want to project. I never had problems understanding math, but was certainly not ahead of the class. Loved books though, perfect spelling.
Let’s hope things work out for us and our children!
Yeah, it’s incredibly frustrating. GPs can diagnose and prescribe for things like anxiety and depression. But the main treatment for ADHD is a “fun” drug that people would like to abuse as much as opioids and we saw how GPs abused prescriptions for that.
So now no one can be trusted, so the test isn’t good enough because what if they’re gaming the system to get drugs?? Psychiatrists are overbooked because we never have enough of them, and we’re heaping all these extra checks just to make sure it’s not someone trying to abuse the meds. And people who have a diagnosis that means they already aren’t good at these kinds of things have to make sure to get a script and bring it to the pharmacy on the exact right day every single month.
I’m not even sure what the solution is. I wish we just a way more holistic treatment of drug abuse and mental health treatment in general so that we aren’t having to make everyone jump through hoops to get the things they need to function.
Thanks, noted! Currently helping myself with Modafinil with pretty good results, but too many side effects. Doc seems to be very fixated on Methylphenidate, so we’ll see if they are even open to trying something else. In standardised tests, I maxed out the ADD scale, but missed criteria for hyperactivity by a little, if I understood correctly. Same with childhood ADD; they said they can’t tell for sure when it started after so much time has passed.
Zero hyperactivity here. Just leg jerking and pacing back and forth during calls/meetings. Modafinil kinda sorta works but Elvanse/Vyvanse is a whole different league.
Methylphenidate just gave me brain fog. Atomoxetine worked great for 6 months but then just stopped. I stopped taking Vyvanse a long while ago due to side effects.
I was tested by someone who came to my school when I was about eight years old because my parents were concerned. They diagnosed me as being lazy.
30+ years later and my kid is going through the same thing. The workers at the nursery are decent though, and suspect neurodiversity. A couple of appointments later and my kid gets an autism and ADHD diagnosis. My wife and I speak to them because my symptoms are so similar, and they said that from the conversations we had about my kid, they assumed that I had already been diagnosed.
I’m now 45 and still on a waiting list for an official diagnosis 😫
Knowing is half the battle.
I was one of those “gifted children that was too lazy” and my mother was one of those “nothing can be wrong with my child or it reflects poorly on me!” and I got diagnosed with full blown ADHD at 29.
Therapy and drugs are great. And I’m glad you were aware enough to get your child tested. Early is for their best.
My parents called me lazy and unmotivated when I didn’t have an executive position at Google right out of highschool wile also saying I’m wasting my life on computers.
Got a “life sucks, then you die” any time I had any problems.
I just want a low effort life where I can be cozy. I’d probably taste test another gun if my job was stressful.
If you’re tech inclined, look for tech positions at non-tech places. Sometimes they can be hell “we need you to be the entire technology division on the salary of a remote helpdesk worker”, but there are rare places where you get to help and do cool tech stuff without the constant “climb the ladder or die” bullshit.
I got that one figured out. I get to hide alone in the server room and only actually do a few hours of work when things are actually broken.
8/10-The pay is a bit crap and I have to wear pants.
I have one of those too. Pretty busy rn because of a big migration for a platform I admin, but once that settles down, it’ll be back to five hours of actual work a week. Mine is a union job, so the pay is pretty good for my col area. 9/10 do reccomend.
I couldn’t help but think of this. XD
(Sorry it’s not exactly an evergreen link but woo that’s a lot of images…)
Anon works in I T
Close but less incompetent, I hope…
Same AF.
Another gun?
Too honest? I do sorta have my shit together currently, atleast.
My parents had a book titled “how to parent a retarded child”. I guess they were trying?
Can I laugh? Dammit too late I’m sorry LMAO.
I bet that was a “fun” read. Yikes LOL
I was laughing pretty hard when I found it as an adult, I can tell you.
Exact same story down to every detail. Both parents teachers, but no clue. The weirdest conclusions and theories about me. Like: Far below average intelligence, but with a talent for languages and mathematics (is that even a thing?), which got me through school with effortless Cs. Most of the time I (and probably others) thought I was just a general shithead.
I realised what it was 4 years ago and told a psychiatrist, who did not disagree, but was like: woa, hold your horses. Got a referral to a full neurological & psychiatric check-up from my GP, who wrote on the referral that he suspects ADD without hyperactivity, 1 1/2 years ago. Couldn’t use it, because they are overrun by more urgent cases.
Started paying out of pocked to a private clinic 6 months ago and got the official, written diagnosis 1 month ago (exactly what my GP already suspected). Since then, lots of delays to get treatment. No appointments, then appointment available, but latest bloodwork and ECG expired etc. Had one appointment last week cancelled 2 hours before start.
Honestly, with a medical system so overrun, a GP should just be authorised to do the diagnostic if supported by purely computer evaluated multiple choice test. The standardized tests appear to be the foundation anyway, and the many hours of additional psychiatric evaluation are just something that the medical system can’t support.
And yes, now my child. He is a true math genius who could do 2 or 3 classes above his own, but he hates books (only since school, not before!) and his reading & writing is just a hateful, effortless B. In two languages equally well, though. I suspect something is up there, but don’t want to project. I never had problems understanding math, but was certainly not ahead of the class. Loved books though, perfect spelling.
Let’s hope things work out for us and our children!
Yeah, it’s incredibly frustrating. GPs can diagnose and prescribe for things like anxiety and depression. But the main treatment for ADHD is a “fun” drug that people would like to abuse as much as opioids and we saw how GPs abused prescriptions for that.
So now no one can be trusted, so the test isn’t good enough because what if they’re gaming the system to get drugs?? Psychiatrists are overbooked because we never have enough of them, and we’re heaping all these extra checks just to make sure it’s not someone trying to abuse the meds. And people who have a diagnosis that means they already aren’t good at these kinds of things have to make sure to get a script and bring it to the pharmacy on the exact right day every single month.
I’m not even sure what the solution is. I wish we just a way more holistic treatment of drug abuse and mental health treatment in general so that we aren’t having to make everyone jump through hoops to get the things they need to function.
ADD subtype PI, for primary inattentive. If methylphenidate and atomoxetine don’t work for you make sure you try lysdexamfetamine.
Thanks, noted! Currently helping myself with Modafinil with pretty good results, but too many side effects. Doc seems to be very fixated on Methylphenidate, so we’ll see if they are even open to trying something else. In standardised tests, I maxed out the ADD scale, but missed criteria for hyperactivity by a little, if I understood correctly. Same with childhood ADD; they said they can’t tell for sure when it started after so much time has passed.
Zero hyperactivity here. Just leg jerking and pacing back and forth during calls/meetings. Modafinil kinda sorta works but Elvanse/Vyvanse is a whole different league.
Methylphenidate just gave me brain fog. Atomoxetine worked great for 6 months but then just stopped. I stopped taking Vyvanse a long while ago due to side effects.
Be sure to test your kid, these things seem to be very hereditary.
I’ve heard it is almost common practice now to test the parents for ADD if a kid has it.
That would be great, but the waiting lists in the UK are currently several years long 🙁