In theory some configurations have stronger or weaker first mover advantage. This is known as white privilege.

It wouldn’t be a 30% higher electrical bill overall. It would be 30% more for whatever power you’re using for this specific device, which, if it’s ordinarily 10W while in sleep and an average 100W while in use, and you use it 50 hours per week, or 215 hours per month, that’s a baseline power usage of 21500 watt hours in use and 5050 watt hours from idle/sleep/suspend. Or a total of 26550 watt hours, or 26.5 kWh. At 20 cents per kWh, you’re talking about $5.30 per month in electricity for the computer. A 30% increase would be an extra $1.60 per month.

That wasn’t the real Tesla, though. It was actually the Goblin King.

All this is just saying that you personally put more weight on the things that are better about later adulthood than early adulthood or adolescence. And that can be your choice, but it doesn’t have to be everyone’s choice.

You acknowledge that the health and friendships piece gets harder with age but push back against the idea that it inevitably gets worse. But averaged among all people, things will tend to get worse, and some people who actually experience that deterioration will conclude (as is their right) that things were better when health and friendships were easier.

But we also make new relationships as we get older. Is life better when you have a grandparent? Or when you have a grandchild?

These aren’t symmetrical. When you are a young person who loves your grandparents, you haven’t actually mourned a loss of a grandchild you personally knew. On the flip side, when you have a grandchild you might also view that relationship through the lens of a lost relationship with a deceased grandparent. In other words, only one of those experiences is 100% good, rather than a bittersweet mix of good and sad.

Not to mention, plenty of people will never have grandchildren. To them, the mourned loss of a grandparent is the end of that road. There’s no replacement on its way.

Put it this way: if given the opportunity to wake up 10 years in the past, in your body of 10 years ago, how positive or negative would you view that? Plenty of people would vote on different sides of that, and that’s OK to have different views based on one’s own experiences.

I interpret it to be more about the weight given to different pros and cons about different stages in life.

Some people really, really prize autonomy, and don’t get to experience that until pretty late in life. For these people, the stifling limits of adolescence, without their own money or independence from parents, can be miserable.

Some people really, really prize being free of responsibilities. To this group, sometimes adulthood comes with too many challenges and responsibilities that they find independence to be stifling.

Some care about physical health, which may correlate with younger ages.

Some love the ease of friendships in adolescence and early adulthood, and long for that dynamic when they realize that making new friends or maintaining existing friendships gets harder after 30, and even more so after 40.

Some feel very strongly about the loved ones they’ve lost since their childhood, and wish they could’ve appreciated those shared experiences more in the moment.

And we all have different experiences. I have no idea if my best years are ahead of me or behind me, but I could see an argument in either direction.

This all or nothing thinking often just turns into an excuse for doing nothing.

I can make a better world by making things better in my immediate vicinity, without dying for it. I can help one person at a time, and it might not scale to some kind of globally noticeable improvement, but it can still a difference to each of those people, and was worth whatever effort or sacrifice involved.

The arm is lit up from the bottom, totally doesn’t fit the rest of the lighting in the picture.

This is such a snore-gasm.

I’m just gonna eat this burrito though.

But pray tell doth the burrito qualify as a sandwich

But most people who are invested in small talk will be giving the signals they think the other person wants, making it less useful than not talking at all.

I don’t think this is true. When I engage in small talk, I don’t see it as me bending flexibly to the conversation partner’s wants. I’m testing to see if there are common overlaps that we can talk about, and talking for the sake of being entertained. If the other person turns out not to be a good conversation partner for me in that moment, I don’t think anything of just moving on. I’m not trying to please them, I’m trying to enjoy myself.

I can’t imagine I’m in the minority here.

Human life absolutely factors into predicted lawsuit losses. Wrongful death lawsuits are expensive.

Up in horsey heaven, here’s the thing
You trade your legs for angels wings
And once we’ve all said good-bye
You take a running leap and you learn to fly

I’ve set up workarounds in my own life. Elsewhere in this thread there’s people talking about forgetting to pay bills, versus bill pay. That’s what I’ve done (and in some instances, have reminders on my phone set up to periodically remind me to do the things that can’t be automated).

I’ve also steered my social relationships and my career to be more accommodating of my brain. I’m with a wife who doesn’t mind (and in some ways finds it endearing), and can help me fill in some gaps. I have a career where jumping around from topic to topic helps me seem well rounded, and where occasionally showing how I’ve done a deep dive into something persuades my colleagues that I’ve got great attention to detail (I do, but only on some things).

My ADHD might be the same as it’s always been, but my life has been set up so that it’s all low consequences. The guardrails and safety nets are in place, and I can just be.

every hole is a goal

ew

25-35 is a great time. I moved cities and changed careers in my late 20’s, and pivoted again in my early 30’s, and it was a good reset to build on lessons learned and undoing past mistakes, while having the youth and energy to really enjoy myself and actually choose a path I was going to have fun with.

I’m enjoying my 40’s a lot, but I look back fondly on that 25-35 period as being both fun in itself and setting me up for a good 30’s and 40’s (and possibly further).

IT’S A BEAR DANCE

It’s just that I don’t have any expectation of the girls in the picture being shocked

That’s the joke.

I’ve heard of nigging but I’ve never heard of this.

Um I hope you mean negging

“Mogging” as a term originated in the early 2000’s and went mainstream-ish in the late 2000’s when the “pickup artist” community started getting attention in places like the New York Times. The people who originated it are probably like 45-50 years old now.

Quick etymology: comes from these pseudoscientific douchebags trying to name the phenomenon where a man tries to subtly belittle another man in front of women, establishing that he’s the AMOG (alpha male of group), eventually became a verb amogging or mogging, and then various specific types of this behavior earned prefixes: heightmogging, etc.

The fact that it has this kind of staying power, 20 years later, is the surprising part.

Some daals are spicy, and could arguably be considered British?