• kambusha@feddit.ch
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    1 year ago

    Doesn't have to be one or the other. Invite them along to your existing friend group activities if you think that person seems nice.

    • Schnitzel Bub@lemmy.mlOP
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      1 year ago

      Well what if you don't have friend groups, but individual, very close, intimate, old, meaningful friendships?

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        1 year ago

        I mean, I'm sure we can come up with a lot of reasons why not to do it.

        My point was just that you don't need to choose between hanging out with your friends and making a new friend. You never know, that person could become a friend for life. I think it's worth making the effort but I understand it's not for everyone.

        I'm selective about who I keep as friends but I try not to close myself off initially, as I've been on the other end of it as well; being in a new city and trying to make friends. With some people it just doesn't click, while others I still have as some of my best friends.

        Anyways, I wasn't trying to upset anyone, just giving my 2 cents

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          1 year ago

          I think the situation isn't relatable to you which makes it difficult to get the joke. and that's perfectly fine.

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      1 year ago

      It’s a lot to ask someone to drop into a group of 4+ friends of 10+ years and just hit the ground running. It takes a lot of effort from everyone involved. I’m for it but it’s not as simple as one might assume.