I used Ubuntu once a few years ago but had compatability issues so I went back to windows. Not a great programmer but I'd like to learn. I'm not looking to do much gaming beyond DOOM2 and factorio. Mostly looking for privacy and a way to get back into programming (I have this pipe dream of learning Assembly). I'm not to particular on UI, I can use whatever.
Edit: https://distrochooser.de for anyone who stumbles upon this post with the same question
Do yourself a favor and just go with Debian Stable
Wanted to write the same. Normaly I would suggest Mint, but OP sounds like they are ready to learn and endure some things to end up very happy with Debian, the mother of all distros.
I know of Arch wiki, but are there wiki's explaining easier distros? I'm on Nobara, because I want to game, but perhaps I could be learning to configure and install some of these tools to be able to one day use any distro for whatever I wanna do?
When I started with Debian I found everything I wanted to know with Duckduckgo… "Linux Debian how to…" without exception. And sometimes even the Archwiki helped me. You don't need a single place with all the knowledge, you just have to practice how to break down your questions into easy to answer bits. Doesn't matter which distro you use.
stuff like askubuntu exists