Edit: I just learned from a comment on another post here that it's literally the only rule for this community. Thanks @db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com for taking out the trash.
I just ran into several comments all saying this. If you're going to be policing this community for "normal human behavior" you've certainly got a lot of work cut out for yourself. Almost everything about ADHD is an exaggeration of normal human behavior, we don't randomly tweet like birds or wear silly hats, it's the exaggeration that makes it a disorder.
It's also really invalidating and it's the same gaslighting crap that we've had fed to us by jerks our whole lives.
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Actually sometimes I do, because I have diabetes 😂
Yeah, the amount of people saying and upvoting that stuff is just depressing. Hopefully things get better with time. I have no problems with people thinking that stuff and being corrected from time to time but multiple people saying that stuff under every x post is just too much.
I think it's because a bunch of people are just looking at the everything feed instead of just their subscribed comms (myself included), because it's easy to handle right now with lemmy not having an enormous userbase. But these people obviously know where they're commenting if they're saying that.
I mean I don't come into your house and basically tell you you're just imagining your problems. It's ableist as shit.
There's also the fact that a lot of people have undiagnosed ADHD which makes them think that we're just making stuff up when in reality they're also affected by it.
Yeah, those I do have some sympathy for because they're still living life on hard(er) mode but no matter who you are it's the sheer volume of knee-jerk reactions that's annoying.
I looked at your profile and caught some of the nuked comments you made in that same thread I came from. I totally agree, it's really frustrating to see disinformation repeated a bunch of times with many upvotes, show up with an actual informed opinion, and people downvote you like crazy in minutes.
On the other hand, when people mistake any kind of forgetfulness or hyperactivity as ADHD, that hurts both them and people with actual ADHD. Let alone if things like "I fall in love with fictional characters" or "I don't subscribe to gender roles" are suddenly misconstrued as symptoms of a certain condition even though they're just part of the subculture these people move in and have nothing to do with their mind.
Expand to all other mental illnesses or neurodiversities. I personally have falsely diagnosed myself with so many fake disorders when I was younger, and it hurts to see others go down the same path. The brain loves to see patterns that aren't there if prompted.
Yeah I do that too. I think everyone does don't they? (Jk)
Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? 😛
I'm dealing with PSTD, and I was lamenting about my anxiety a bit during a conversation with my sister. She then sighed and said "Yeah, we all have anxiety!" And I just…
People who aren't ND or don't have mental health issues literally can't understand it and lots end up minimizing it. My conditions are debilitating. I don't want to be like this, and people who make me feel like shit for not being able to function very well just make my life so much worse.
Fuck.
Sad PTSD solidarity fistbump. I haven’t told anyone but my husband and a close friend about my diagnosis because I absolutely do not want to deal with the possibility of insensitive shit being said. Avoidance is also a PTSD issue, but since I’m acknowledging it that circles back to being okay again.
I hope you’re able to find a routine and/or medication that gives you some relief. I’m not “fixed” but my meds have definitely helped me.
I have an anxiety disorder that began suddenly due to a traumatic event earlier this year.
I can confidently confirm that I did not know what anxiety was before I felt it, and that I completely misinterpreted when other people talked about anxiety.
Neurotypical people like I used to be, they grow up thinking that anxiety is the same thing as worry, indecision, laziness or mild restlessness. Before I had anxiety attacks, I could, with some effort, turn on or off any emotions I felt. I could just stop worrying by overriding it consciously, and force myself to do something. I could stop crying and try and have a positive or neutral outlook when I was sad, and usually it'd work. The fucking horror that I felt when my own body took me on a whole rollercoaster ride I didn't want to be on, I never even considered that that was what anxiety meant all along.
The difference between being in control of your own consciousness and emotions, and being a passenger to your own brain was HORRIFYING.
It felt so terrible realizing that all the times I thought to myself or even said to others that they should overcome their anxiety in this or that way were terribly misguided. I thought that anxiety was the same as nervousness, or the little spark in your tummy when you are excited or happy (just a negative version of it), that those were synonyms, that anxiety was just overthinking or worrying which could be overcome with the right change of pace or attitude.
The biggest revelation to me was that anxiety is mostly a physical symptom, not a thought or an attitude/idea.
Thank you and bless you for sharing.
People often seem to conflate "having chronic anxiety" with "being anxious" and cannot understand that they are not the same thing.
